a good mom.

Do you ever have days you just feel so defeated? Like no matter how hard you work, how hard you try-you just cannot win? NO matter how much you love or give to others, no matter how much grace or fight you have, no matter how many hours of overtime you worked, no matter how many hours in the gym you spent—it just isn’t good enough?

I am waving my white flag! S.O.S!! I give up! Agh.

Maybe it is because I hate waiting. I like the instant gratification in life. Results. I want to be rewarded for my effort (ha!) Well not in everything, but sometimes, I mean really. What gives?

I have been having way too many of those days lately. I strive to be the best at everything I do. But the reality is, you can’t be the best in everything. I can be average, I can be mediocre, I can excel, I can be the best at certain things-but not everything. I must remind myself this every single day.

It is like I create these expectations and try to hold myself to them. We all do.

As a blogger, it is often thought that I have the perfect life. So not true. I have days just like you, messy bedrooms, dirty dishes, imperfect relationships, struggles and constant ups and downs, a kiddo that doesn’t always cooperate, not being happy with my weight or health, stresses of work and daily living. I am just like you.

I blog. I read books for soul searching. I write letters and notes to express my thoughts. I spend hours on Pinterest reading quotes that pertain to my current situation in life. It is like therapy or like a virtual diary for me. I pin them, share them or even sometimes print them. It works for me.

It is good to talk about things.

Things can be hard to keep to yourself, when all you want to do is scream and beg for a break in life sometimes.

I share these words with you, because I know I am not the only one who has bad days. We are the same.

Comparison is brutal. Especially as a mom, a working mom. We compare ourselves to all other moms, in every single regard. We say to ourselves: “Look how good her kids are.” “Look how pretty she is.” “Oh, how does she stay so skinny?” “Oh look at her husband, she is lucky to have him.” “I wish I could have her life.” “Her kids are perfect.” “I wish I could stay at home with my kids, too.”

BUT, the reality is we all have moments of perfection, just like the mom you caught during her perfect moment.

You too are beautiful. You too have good kids. You too find balance for your life. You too are the “perfect woman,” but you are a perfect woman for YOUR life. Not for hers. Not for anyone but yours.

Of course we can all strive to be better, and do better in many aspects in our lives. Yet, we fail to see how perfect we actually already are.

You are a good mom. You are a good woman. They say, “don’t let a bad day convince you that you have a bad life.”

You don’t.

Thank you for letting me ramble. Like I said it’s good therapy for me.

If you want a happy ending, that depends, of course, on where you stop your story. -Orson Welles

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With love,

Rachel

The Lake Country Mom